Face to Face: Jesus on Relationships

So today is Valentine's Day! What a great day we had. Ricky and I have always had faith in God and grew up that way. We don't go to church every Sunday like most, but we want to. We alway say how we need to go to church today, but never go. Well we went tonight the Fellowship of The Woodlands. We have gone there before and every time we leave there we always have something negative to say about it. Well I think we are going to give it a chance. Something clicked today and I don't know if it was the message Pastor Kerry had or what it was. But we loved it. Here is what it was all about:

Face to Face:
Jesus on Relationships

"A new command I give you: Love one another, As I have loved you, so you must love one another." John 13:34

Love: Giving someone what they need not what they deserve.

Todays series was part 1 of ~Series Relationship Principles of Jesus~

Pastor Kerry explained how a relationship works out. Either it be, husband, wife, son, daughter, mother, father, etc. There are many different relationships. Are you at the same table as the other person?
He gave 7 different tables from what people may want out of a relationship. And you have to be at the same table to have them understand how much you care for and love them.
For example:
I myself love spending time with Ricky and I like the practical things. So for him to realize that I need to speak up and make him realize that I want him to make time with me or I want him to wash clothes, do the dishes with out me asking, and that shows me that he loves me. But If I never say to him those things make me feel loved then he may think I like to get gifts, or I like to hear him say I love you. When that isn't the case at all.
here are the different tables:

Time Table
Verbal Table
Touch Table
Gift Table
Practical Table
Opportunity Table
Provider Table

He used a ping pong table to show the different ways how this works. you can be serving and there may not be anyone on the receiving end. You can be at the Time table and waiting for them to make time for you when they are at the gift table waiting to give you a gift. When you need to meet and come together as a team and make it work.

Ricky on the other hand likes to be touched (hugged, kissed, back rub) also the practical table. Now that we know what each other wants and likes this this will make thing alot smoother in how we do things.

Take these things and work them into your relationships and see how they affect your life and the ones around you:

Take Notice
Ask and don't assume
Break the cycle
Learn and adjust
Experience Christ's Love

"Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love." 1 John 4:8

You may have a father and son, The father will say he loves his son very much. But you ask the son and he says what can I do to make my father love me? That's because they aren't at the same tables. Dad thinks all his son needs is an I love you every now and again to make him realize hey dad loves me. But not the case. Son needs Time, or Touch to feel loved. So all dad would need to do was give son a hug or spend some time with him. Take a look around and see what the other person needs to make you realize hey they love me!!